NARCISSISTS VS EMPATHS

HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE DIFFERENCE

Accepting that we are involved in a toxic relationship is more complicated than we think.  I am not referring only to romantic relationships. In reality toxic 𝙛𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙮 relashionships are more complex due to 𝙗𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙢𝙞𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 and social 𝙤𝙗𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩.

💥Narcissists usually present themselves outdoors as people with an admirable character and it takes time to point out their need for control. They are masters of manipulation and they know how to play the victim very well when they need to.  

Indoors, narcissists are inconsistent, conflictive, cruel and their true colors are revealed slowly at first and then exponentially.

Empaths don’t understand the conflictive behaviors, yet they question them.

At the same time, empaths would try everything in their power in order to understand, make it work and be fair; they would sacrifice their rights or their voice to keep the peace. 

However, at some point (and depending on the self-esteem of the empath), they realized that they have been abused.

Then the Empaths would try to establish boundaries, defend their rights, find their voice and that’s when things get even more complicated, 

👉🏼because in the process of standing up for their rights, empaths can get “dirty” finding themselves fighting, yelling, feeling crazy, explaining, reading books, going to therapy and wondering if they really are the “predators” because sometimes things get so crazy, they no longer know who the victim is.

Sooner or later, the empath realizes that there is 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 they can do to change a narcissist, that they need to 𝙡𝙚𝙩 𝙜𝙤 of their hope because narcissistic people 𝙘𝙖𝙣’𝙩 feel true love

👉🏼they can only 𝙢𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙘 𝙞𝙩 when they need it to fulfill their agenda of control and/or manipulation.

Finally, when empaths have the courage to leave and surrender to the fact that the only person they can change is themselves, then the healing process begins and empaths will find a way to forgive, forget and use their experiences to help others.

This post is written with the intention of clarifying who is who, because as I said, it takes two for a toxic relationship and at some point 𝙗𝙤𝙩𝙝 people become the “victim” and the “predator” depending on how long and how co-dependent the toxic relationship is, but there are a couple of things that separate one from the other:

💥Empaths will always be open to professional help, communication with a neutral third party and will take clear responsibility for their flaws and actions.

💥Narcissists will always rely on the fact that empaths care, that the empath will be the bigger person, so there are no consequences to their actions.  That’s why, they will refuse professional help, will not risk a neutral third party meeting and will never take accountability for their actions.

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